Congratulations, you just got engaged! Soon you’ll be getting married to your favorite person in the world. After they pop the question, the ring is neatly on your finger and the tears have subsided, you’ll feel an avalanche of different things. Excitement, expectation, nervousness, and maybe even a bit of anxiety.
In fact, it’s likely you’ll panic a bit, and that’s normal. As soon as reality sets in, you’ll be hit with a big question: What should I do next? To help you figure this out and recover some much needed peace of mind, here are some of the do’s and don’ts of engagement!
Do Take Time to Enjoy the Moment, Don’t Rush Into Anything
In today’s world, we’re living hyper-connected lives. We tend to share every big moment on our Instagram, Twitter or Facebook. When you get engaged, you will want to tell everyone about it. From the Uber driver who barely says a word to the barista that pours your coffee. This is why it might be second-nature to post about your engagement as soon as you’ve said “yes”.
However, remember that this is a moment in life, just like many other firsts, that you won’t be able to reproduce. That’s why it’s important to take a moment as a couple and soak in what you’re feeling. You have all the time in the world to start planning your wedding and to call everyone to share the big news. But now, treat yourselves to a bottle of Champagne and your favorite snack, cry or laugh together, do anything, but just celebrate and revel in the moment before you move on to what’s next.
Do Share The News Personally, Don’t Just Post Online
Holding back from immediately posting your engagement on social media is about more than just enjoying the moment. There’s a hierarchy to announcing your engagement and it’s meant to save yourself conflict with people. Imagine if your mom’s neighbor found out about your engagement before she did. She wouldn’t like that one bit! As soon as you decide it’s time to let everyone know, you should start with your immediate family. Call them or visit them if they’re nearby.
Once you’ve let your family know, your closest friends should be next. Think of the people that are as close as family. These might be the same group of friends that will make up your wedding party, so make sure you let them know. After everyone truly important knows, then you can post the news on social media and enjoy the reactions!
Do Pick Your Wedding Party, Don’t Ask Everyone You Know
Don’t worry, you don’t have to start making huge decisions right after getting engaged. But choosing your wedding party is definitely one of the first things you should do. Not just because this will be your squad in the months ahead and you need to know if they can make that commitment, but also because they can help you plan an engagement party if you want one. And I think you do!
If you and your partner have been thinking about getting engaged for a while, it’s likely that you already have a clear idea of who will be in your wedding party. Sit down, have a cup of coffee and discuss this, then let everyone in the party know. I know it’s tempting to include everyone in the wedding party, but there’s only room for so much people. Make sure you choose your closest friends.
Do Insure Your Engagement Ring, Don’t Be Careless
I’m sure your engagement ring is one of your most prized possessions at the moment. That’s precisely why you need to insure it as soon as possible. You don’t want your ring to get lost or stolen, but you need to prepare for that scenario. A piece of jewelry such as your engagement ring is not usually protected under the standard homeowner or renter’s insurance. This means you’ll have to add an extra insurance or choose a policy that’s specific to rings from companies that specialize in jewelry insurance.
Don’t Buy Your Wedding Dress Right Away, Do Take Your Time
Your wedding dress is probably the center of your wedding in your head. That’s why it’s perfectly normal to feel excited and to want to rush out and get that dress you’ve probably been pining over for months. However, this is the last thing you should do. Don’t get your wedding dress right away, even if it’s on sale.
Remember that shopping for a wedding dress is a ritual; this is one of those special moments in life that you only get to do once for the first time. Take your sweet time with this decision! Your dream wedding dress won’t go anywhere, so you have time to think of details such as your wedding season, the color scheme, the venue, etc., all important details that you’ll want to keep in mind when choosing your gown.
Do Get A Manicure, Don’t Neglect the Details
When you get engaged you’ll be showing off your ring left and right, which is why it’s a good idea to get a fresh manicure. Your engagement photos are something you’ll treasure forever, and the last thing you want to do is look back on them and only think about the fact that your nail polish was chipped or that your cuticles were a mess. Keep your hands neat, if you don’t already, so that people can get the full experience when you show them your bling.
Your engagement is one of the most exciting times in your life, but it can also be overwhelming for a moment. Remember to enjoy the moment and take it easy. You’ll have enough time to get everything done!